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Lights, roll camera, action.
Louisa stood there behind the curtains watching her own life unfold .It was the story of her own life being acted out on stage. The irony.
Her life had become an open theatre for stage exhibitions and she was the director of this play, standing behind the curtains, watching her life being acted on stage with the script she wrote herself.
It was clear Louisa had lost control over her entire life.She was manipulated by people and pushed around by her family. She let in anybody and everybody at the same time. Actors were on stage in her LIFE, acting out the script she handed over to them.
Greg was the protagonist in this play, he was the moon all this time and he was always there to make her shine. Was he the sun? No honey, he was the darkness. Louisa did everything to keep him even though it was clear he was tired of playing the lead role in her life. They kept up public apperarences to the world. They were engaged. Everyone could hear the wedding bells ringing but she was the only one ringing these bells. She stayed in this toxic relationship were she did everything to please a person who was not ready to put in as much effort as she did. she deserved more but no, she was afraid to shout “CUT”
Nothing was more heartbreaking than Louisa becoming a past participant in her own life.The scenes for the onstage presentations of her own life was set before her and there was nothing she could do about this but stand behind the curtains terrified and completely dazed and afraid to shout ‘cut’ at every act that was not in the script.
“If you cant build with them, don’t chill with them”. Louisa never understood this statement untill reality hit her. Lily, Tricia and Morgan made her life a misery. These three musketeers were to serve as minor characters but did nothing close to that. Rather their mission was “Operation drag her down, drag her to the mud”. She cut herself into pieces to keep them yet she felt this void within her anytime she was with them. Louisa clinged to them so tight, afraid to let them go. How could she even think of letting them go when in her life they played the role of the “best friends”. Louisa reported every new action in her life to them and awaited their approval to move on to the next act. These characters in her life turned her life story into a misery story.
“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the priettest of them all?” This was the only sound track that played in the background of Louisa’s life anytime she looked at herself, constantly comparing her ‘behind the scenes’ to other people’s ‘highlight reel’. All she had to do was ignore what everyone was doing and achieving, and understand that she was not in competition with anyone else. All she had to do was to try to outdo her past not other people.
The society became the audience. The audience allowed her have her opinion, as long as she shaped them to their views. Welcome to the society. They watched her every move, critizing her when she broke societal rules and did not conform to society standards.
She was the type of person who held onto things too tight, unable to release her grip when it no longer felt right. And although it gave her blisters and made her fingers ache, she thought in losening her grip on things, she would lose a part of herself too.
After watching various characters act on stage, exhibiting different actions, Louisa finally decided it was time to shout “CUT” and begin to direct her own story. She started by removing some characters and changing the script for the rest of the characters. As for her audience, she put them on mute. She decided to ignore them, she accepted the fact that nobody was responsible for her happiness. She decided to make her own standards instead of following society standards.
Through all the struggles, the ups and downs, it was time for her to select her own characters and rewrite her own script.
With all the strength she could gather, she moved towards the curtains, hands visibily shaking as she struggled to catch her breath and CLOSED THE CURTIANS. It was time she got herself together.
(“when something goes wrong in yourlife just yell “plot twist”! and move on”….)
“ANYONE CAN SWITCH UP ON YOU…”
“Theirs was a threepage love letter in a world of relationship status updates..”
“Sasha! your mascara is ruined…” tears mixed with black substance gently made their way through her bright eyes. she felt her inner stars grow cold until her life was far to heavy for her once strong arms to hold.
“Give me one reason, why i shouldn’t let my mascara get ruined, voice shaking and breaking,sasha managed to whisper to her friend. “All i did was love him,gave my all into this….. what do i get in return? he walked out of my life without explanations, no signs, not even a single signal.
Sasha and jake had the perfect relationship, theirs was a three page love letter in a world of relationship status updates. They served steady relationship goals. it was all perfect and rosy,They were even engaged.All hell was let loose when sasha received the shocking news that jake got married to another woman. “That is not possible, they never broke their engagement, how could he break her heart so suddenly? The same questions ran through everybody’s mind.
“Bella talk to me, can you explain this, He got married!!!! without notice, not even the courtesy of breaking of the engagement, i even got a wedding dress, my entire family have been waiting for us to fix the date. A bride without a groom, thats what he turned me into. HE LEFT ME!!!!. her voice shaking, sasha laid on the ground naked and defenceless talking to bella. This single act broke down her defence system.
so many things ran through Bella’s mind as she watched her best friend shed so much tears after getting the shocking news that her jake got married to another woman. she struggled to hold back the tears. How could this even happen? she said to herself. she wished to have the kind of relationship, sasha found with jake. unlike her friend she settled for a person that constantly toiled with her emotions and played with her heart after all the sacrifices she made for him.But jake was different, he was the perfect gentleman.All this thoughts kept running through her mind as she watched her friend go through so much pain. She gently pulled a blanket to cover sasha, she was laying on the bed in so much despair her hair standing straight, completely naked as she cried her eyes out.
This single act broke down sasha defence system. she was known as a very strong person, she picked herself up after every struggle, but this time she was helpless.
This was the cream de’ la cream, the sauce to the chips. How could she even break this news to her family, How was she going to explain to them that the man she introduced to them got married to another woman.The thought of this made her sobbing to intensify.
she use to have stars behind her eyelids, a galaxy in her soul but the depression took the stars.
plot twist; The people you love the most can devaste you.expectations get broken.
Like sasha, everyday we experience a lot of broken expectations. The people we can bet our lives for, can break us totally. People change and things happen, thats why you always have to stay ready for anyone to switch up on you. it does not mean, they are bad people, but this is just the irony of life,anything can happen.
so the expectations you want from anybody are the bars you are using to build your own cage.stay ready for anybody to switch up on you.
LEARN TO PICK YOURSELF UP;
learning to pick yourself up after going through stuff is such an important thing, nobody teaches you.just like the story about sasha.you don’t have to cling to people,who no longer make you smile, or do something you’ve come to hate,if it isn’t worth your while, sometimes the things you are fighting for, is’nt worth the cost and not everything you ever lose is bound to be a loss.
so honey pick yourself up, had a rough day, don’t worry too much,someone broke your heart, “Let it go”. Your expectations are bound to get broken.Learning to pick yourself up is such an important thing nobody teaches you. You are loved
EAT,PRAY SLAY.(EPS guide)
Her hand was placed firmly on her head, an attempt to stop her head from spinning and rotating in circles, face bowed to the ground, tears rolled down her cheeks as she finally decided it was time to stop trying to keep up with public appearances. Her spirit was broken.Sandra struggled with being so empty, frustrations, being hunted from the past, failed relationships. Her life was a complete mess. All she needed at this point was inner peace anything to stop the voices in her head, she had lost it all.
Her mind was just to busy trying to process all the issues she had to sort out in her life. she never got hungry because her stomach was filled with so much “Work”, busy schedules” and plans. she lost connection with her spirit and this was the beginning of her problems in life.
Sandra,was once called the CEO of the SLAYNATION, A title that did not last for long because it was hard for her to maintain her slaying status. she was caught in the web of struggling to staying sane, staying hydrated,staying afloat in the adulting game and keeping it real with God.
Her life was far from being described as a perfect one.she was so busy with everything she never had time to eat healthy meals, pray and live a life that she deserved. she was merely existing not living at this point in time. 24 hours was never enough for her to complete every single thing she had to do. if only sandra could remember and apply the Eat,pray,slay priciples all centered on the little habits that is cultivated overtime ,which helps you stand out and remain awesome.
Sometimes we get so busy with life, to the point of forgetting to live life’. We begin to take life too seriously and our human bodies suffer the consequences because it is the carrier of our spirit and soul.Do not forget the little things about life while struggling to fulfill your ambitions in life. You forget the little things like eating, taking water, praying and even slaying in your life goals when you begin to merely exist instead of living.
Now after reading this long epistle to this point, i want you to ask yourself if you have forgotten the little things about life or you are just floating through life. Now carefully read through the following paragraphs to understand how the Eps guide to living life.
REMEMBER TO EAT;
The challenge we all face is trying to eat foods that are both; high in nutrients and taste amazing at the same time. lets be real here i don’t see myself as a foodperson because i am guilty of eating foods that are not as good, but i’m trying my best to stick to the healthier choices. Food must not only taste good but must have nutritional value. This will help you stay healthy and give you that amazing glow you need to face anything life throws at you. We should all consider nutritional support and value as we consider the taste in the short term.
The word ‘eat’ has been often abused by mankind. A lot of people do not truly eat, and some suffer from their very choked up eating patterns.
DO NOT JUST EAT ANYTHING
‘EAT HEALTHY’ take good nutritional packed meals, eat fruits, if people complain about you eating, Eat them too(this is actually on a lighter note) . Eat good food baby. This will help you face anything life throws at you. So from now on, prepare to start your journey to a fabulous life.
– Drink water;
Dehydration can even make you angry, you lose all your joy and get cranky. Just drink enough water. In your busy schedules, take a bottle of water with you anywhere you go to. take healthy drinks that will keep you filled with fluids.
Remember to PRAY;
keep your body,
soul,spirit, in connection and tandem.
Never ever forget prayer,
this is the essence of your existence.
“inner peace is the new success”.
prayer keeps you in connection with your spirit, keeps you sane in your crazy moments in life. In your darkest hour, prayer helps you go through it.
Remain in a spirit of thankfulness and gratitude: Blessing others for God hears such things as a living prayer, and it counts as praying ceaselessly as you glorify God as you treat others as you would want to be treated.And whatever you do to the least of these you do to the lord, good or bad.
EFFECTIVE PRAYER; THE LIFE
Spending time developing our own personal relationship with the lord is a valuable investment of our time. God has made it possible for us to communicate with him through prayers. Therefore, the more we pray and read his word, the deeper our relationship with Him will be.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” philippians 4:6.
In other to pray effectively Revere God in your life. Stop harboring sin in your life, forgive others,obey God, Believe, never doubting, See the results and be inspired.
extra tip; LOVE ALWAYS
love yourself; you cannot truely love another except you love yourself. perharps we should love ourselves so fiercesly, so that when others see this, they know exactly how it should be done. Love is contagious, once you love yourself, you can truly show love to everyone around you. Love makes the world go round, surround yourself with so much love it will help you live a happy and fulfilled life.
THE BEST YOU CAN BE,
(SLay; is used in slang as intransitive verb to mean impress strongly,overwhelm,stand out from the crowd, it also means kill it.)
SO when i say Slay in this sense i mean be “outstanding” , in anything you have to do, do it very well, shock everyone, be awesome.
SLAY IN ALL RAMIFICATIONS OF LIFE;
In your career, be the best you can ever be, your dreams and visions bring them to life. learn new skills, and acquire knowledege daily, refuse to remain in the staus quo, break resaonable and unreasonable expections in life, do not confirm to society standards SLAY. Be different.
pay attention to your apperance, always appear clean and smart.Dress to impress yourself and how you want to be adressed. “you don’t want your best dressed day in a casket”. Stay classy. package yourself and look presentable. remember to slay daily.
Oluchi jn.love always.
SHE was far
From being an “S-H-E”.
This word” had not yet reached
a point where it could develop
enough descriptive power
to adequately convey how
Unpredictable and sensitive
The meaning of this word could be.
, SHE was Chaos and Beauty;
Beauty and beast.
SHE was Whiskey in a baby’s feeding bottle.
SHE was the reason the devil
sat down to take lessons.
SHE was roses and thorns;
A tornado of divine nature
SHE was rare.
Not because of her looks
but her personality and vibe
and pure nature.
Perfect was SHE never.
But real was SHE ever.
SHE was unpredictable in her own predictability.
SHE was soft but strong,
something different from the regular taste.
People craved her vibes.
SHE was like a thunderstorm
waiting for eruption.
The world was not even ready to withstand
such pleasant disaster.
SHE was a version that could never be cloned.
SHE even used shades to cover her eyes
because she pierced the souls of men
with her stare.
SHE was completely wrapped up within herself.
SHE found home within herself.
Even a Crown could not serve as a symbol
to adequately describe the level of royalty
that flowed through her veins.
Her D.N.A was something exceptional.
SHE was filled with so much dreams and visions
that, it even burned her belly button.
SHE was like that soft breeze that blew your face
during your darkest hour.
SHE took control over her life and called the shots
because it was her own movie and she was screaming “action”
SHE was that woman that went through the fire
but never got burned because hell was a part of her.
SHE was that woman that refused to stay silent
and received a standing ovation
SHE was that woman that made plans
for world domination.
That was her slogan.
She sang it like a little song bird until
it began to ring in her soul
like sounds of rain.
SHE was classy and sassy
because she refused to twist herself into
versions to please.
SHE was that woman that refused to allow
society define her and put her into a cage made
from insecurities projected and manipulated
into her head.
SHE was that woman that refused to accept that gospel
preached to her that she constantly had to please
the society and meet up to certain standards
that history had cooked up for her
in order to remain in the status quo
and not to upset the balance of the world.
SHE was that woman that made plans
for world domination.
SHE was that woman that never apologized
for being a powerful woman.
External validation was never found in her vocabulary,
because she was filled with so much love
for her own soul
that she could never question her essence.
SHE was that woman, that picked herself up,
right after she was crushed, broken, and her spirit
weakened by sadness, trial, disappointment,hardship.
SHE was that woman who woke up
with positive vibes and decided to make
SHE was that woman that believed her life
belonged to her and no one else.
SHE could not be shamed by society
because she had put them all to shame already.
SHE was that woman that loved every inch of herself.
SHE was the storm.
SHE was that woman that loved every inch
of herself and gave society a run for their money.
SHE was that woman that became a lion among wolves.
SHE was that woman that taught her daughters to believe
that they breathe fire.
SHE breathes fire.
SHE WAS THAT WOMAN THAT WOKE UP
AND DECIDED SOCIETY STANDARDS ARE NEVER FOR HER,
SHE NEVER FOLLOWED STANDARDS BECAUSE SHE MADE STANDARDS.
OLUCHI J.N….love always
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“THOU SHALL NOT FOLLOW THE MULTITUDE…” OLUCHI J.N
“…DO YOU SOLEMLY SWEAR, TO STAY IN YOUR LANE
YOUR WHOLE LANE, AND NOTHING BUT YOUR LANE ?..
(Warning; answer this, before you proceed any further.)
HEY !COPY CAT!”;
Adrian, the little cute white cat, just wanted to feel among.
little cat, did everything possible to walk like the other cats,
meow like them,and even eat like them. little adrian failed to understand
that she was a very rare cat, a different breed, different specie that
even threatened other cats. Submit little cute Adrian namechange.
it will become a “COPYCAT”.
This short story of this cute little cat applies to all of us. Everyday in the society one way or another we try to copy other people. Forgetting the fact that we are unique with different traits, and unique gifts. Hey! YOU CANNOT REMAIN A COPY CAT.
Remind yourself, that you do not have to do what everyone else is doing. Focus on your path, Stay in lane!.Thou shall not follow the multitude least, you lose yourself and forget who you are.
STAY IN LANE!!
“EYES ON THE PRIZE , STAY IN LANE!, DO NOT LOSE FOCUS,
THATS A DISTRACTION, REMAINED FOCUSED”….James said to himself
as he struggled to stay focused. At this point,it was obvious james had
gotten to the breaking point, The pressure on him intensified, he wanted to
listen to the multitude, a confused set of people all living their lives to get
external validation, afraid to break out of the status quo……..”(excepts from the book “struggles” by oluchi J.N).
Stay in lane!. Do not lose your focus and move out of your lane.
You begin to lose focus, and stray out of your path, when you feel the need to Copy other people. When your aim in life becomes following, the crowd and multitude, you become influenced by peer pressure, public opinions, and societal standards.
“WE DO NOT FOLLOW STANDARDS,
WE MAKE STANDARDS…..”OLUCHI J.N.
Believe me, its quite easy to lose focus and stray on our paths. But we have to constantly strive to stay focused on our goal. it will help us in achieving that dream and vision that burn right within us. Focus on that dream and vision, nurture it and watch it grow.
You have your own unique gifts, and abilities,Develop and embrace them. Run your own race without feeling the need to constantly copy the crowd. when you begin to follow the crowd, you eventually lose yourself.
Travel your own journey in life,Mind your business, stay away from other peoples business, stop acting like a copy cat!!!. Always remember you are rare and different, You are a champion, and champions do not copy other people. They do something different that makes them stand out.
NOTE TO SELF;
Refuse to be distracted, Don’t be discouraged, pursue your own dreams,
make your own plans, follow your blue- print, Do not try to imitate or mimick
others, no matter how appealing it is. Stay in lane!.
WRITTEN BY OLUCHI J.N.
Photocredit:( official sammy photography)
(“Establish a new connection…”)
You wake up in the morning and
Go straight to the “Gram”
Searching scriptures of the gram
To be told your “UPDATES AND LEADS”.
Scrolling through your news feeds,
Hands in your chest,
An attempt to hold your
heart from bursting out of its plugs
As a result of “Self hate”
You “self destruct” because
You compare your “BEHIND THE SCENES”
To there “HIGHLIGHT REEL”
“Look at all these pictures…”
you say to your imprisoned soul.
You look at yourself
You seek “EXTERNAL VALIDATION”
From a conglomerate of people,
ALL, struggling to keep up
Oh yeah, you got the “likes”and “follows”
But still you feel EMPTY.
Yes, you got your External Validation
But how do you feel inside?
Because You Put in so much effort
Trying to please the crowd
And you lose yourself.
You ain’t got no money,
But you cut off your budget to
Keep that “Face”.
You feel connected to the plug
Because you got the “updates and leads”
on other people’s lives.
Now your stomach’s upset
because your spirit can’t digest it
You still get so bitter,
Commenting on the nearest Fragile “SOCIAL
You drag them to the mud,
Because you have become a
“GUARDIAN OF MORALITY”
You have made yourself
The standard for living life.
Your life has turned into a
But you feel “connected”,
You Say stupid things
on the go,
commenting and putting it up
on your page and other people’s pages
and you get applauded by peoeple
Who have no direction in life.
Are you truly happy?
Are you on that grind that you constantly
Well, for a day,
Think about this.
TURN OFF YOUR NOTIFICATIONS
ESTABLISH A NEW CONNECTION
A new connection with your spirit.
Think about this.
Ponder on this.
(A WRITE-UP TO THE SOUL OF PERSONS;)
Warning; (I am not a motivational speaker . “I speak to the souls of persons”, it is left for the soul to decide. OLUCHI J.N.)
“DEEPER AND DEEPER WE SLIDE, LITTLE BY LITTLE WE ARE CONSUMED. IT IS A SLIPPERY SLOPE…”
Sometimes we find ourselves in difficult situations, where the wrong thing begins to seem right to us. No, thats not the phrase to adequately express that thought. “The wrong thing begins to feel so good...”. The confusing aspect is that the wrong thing feels so good we do not know how to face the bitter truth. We ask ourselves questions; so many wild thoughts running through our minds.
We pray and hope somehow that there will be a miraculous intervention, we fight with an unknown voice to stay focused on a wrong path. It feels so good yet it is the path to our very own destruction. ‘SLIPPERY SLOPE’ I will call it…little by little and you are totally consumed by it.
We say to ourselves, “maybe there is a God in heaven, an all powerful and all knowing being who knows the heart of men and sees the future. Maybe he can do something about this. In the mean time, this feels so good”. Yet in our hearts we know we are fighting our own personal demons created by a combination of life experiences.
We say to our ourselves, “is there a way out? should I stop at this point? No no no, every soul is doing this, perhaps is not so wrong.”perhaps this is a struggle”. No no no, maybe I am stressing over this. It will pass, of course it will” We convince ourselves.
Just maybe we listen to our own souls a little bit more. What if this is the divine intervention our souls cry out for? But wait, this is so difficult. How do we come out from this situation? We go deeper, buried in our own self destruction, destroyed by a war we lost to our own personal demons.
Still our souls call out to us…”the will”( ability TO DECIDE, ) has been given to us by “the supernatural being” but yet we cannot even exercise it.
We get to the end of the slippery slope, totally confused, lost sometimes drained, bitter,broken. What felt so good in the beginning hunts our very own existence.
Perhaps, we should have stopped a little while earlier to examine our souls. Maybe it is not too late to defeat our personal demons. Maybe it is not too late to turn back. Maybe it is not too late to say ‘NO’ to our crazy appetites. Maybe it is not too late to face our own paths and journey without trying to copy the journey of another. Maybe it is not too late to ask the “ultimate being” for help. Maybe it is not too late to turn back.
BUT, what if we are totally consumed by this? What if we have gotten to the end of the slippery slope? Is there still hope for the Broken soul? Is there a chance for redemption?
I do not have answers to your soul’s question. Sorry to burst your bubbles… WAIT! I actually just remembered a little detail. You can allow your soul guide you for once. In this confusion the higher being,”GOD”, has answers, I think…
You can exercise one true gift (YOUR WILL) to choose the right path.
DECIDE IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE ON THIS SLIPPERY SLOPE.
A WISE SOUL ONCE SAID “I CANNOT TEACH YOU, I CAN ONLY MAKE YOU THINK”.
YOUR FELLOW SOUL IN THE JOURNEY OF LIFE.
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